2014年4月15日 星期二

趣圖趣聞︰2014-03-10 至 2014-04-15

        何必看電影,其實,「觸不到的她」,時常可見。因此,昨晚我看《觸不到的她》時,既覺得真實,又感到無聊,總之是很空虛、討厭的感覺。港姐〈Just Flirting = Just Kidding〉︰「在這種關係中,認真的那位,就連兵都不如。因為做兵至少假假地都叫對女神或男神有實質的利用價值,可以藉著為對方付出而得到某種自慰式的滿足或快樂,或多或少可獲派一點軍糧。但純文字曖昧,是個見不了也觸不到的對像,孤寒得連應酬你的車錢及時間都不會付出。沒有共同去過的地方,也沒有一起做過的事,連想扮情痴重遊故地學人觸景傷情的機會都沒有。電話中沒聲音沒表情的文字和符號,就是僅有的所有。Sorry,Nothing More。」(2014-03-14)
        剛才朋友傳來這篇「攻略」,完全擊中了我的「要害」——Kino〈溝女攻略︰聊天切忌索取話題〉︰「不先提供資訊,卻不斷的追問對方,是在索取話題,會令對方煩厭。對方好心地回答了你,然後你又沒完沒了的問下一個問題。你可能以為,聊天沒有 dead air,就順利過關。結果在約會後,對方冷淡回覆你短訊,還怪得誰?最好的情況,你遇上了長篇大論,喜歡自說自話的女生,你慶幸終於不用動腦筋想話題了。結果也好不了多少,她不討厭你,但不會喜歡你。為甚麼?因為在對話中,你沒有展示到你的價值,在約會過後沒有留下深刻印象。女人會對一個面目模糊的傢伙動心嗎?別發夢了。」問題是,道理非常明白,一直嘗試改善,但活了快三十年,怎樣與人「聊天」這一關,對我來說始終是大難題……(2014-04-13)

  做了三十年人,我一直以為,做個「好人」,做個「有誠意」的人,做個「勤力」的人,就會有應得的回報,但我越來越不相信這回事了……唉,可是我應該怎樣做?做個「聰明的壞人」嗎?Kino〈避免好人卡——好男人犯賤〉︰「很多人抱著『我對她好,她也會對我好』的想法,……不是付出越多,回報越多嗎?……花心力讓女人感動,是徒勞無功的。……其實一切都是語言遊戲,女人口中說你『好』,是怕你自尊受損,拒絕你的理由都不重要,只是給你一個下台階。她只是覺得你低價值,襯不起她。……『好男人』的定義很簡單,以討好別人的方法追求女人,以誠意、付出、穩定吸引女人的男人。誠意、時間、心力,很多男人都有,尤其低價值、沒朋友、缺乏社交活動的男人,多多益善。想想看,你請食飯、幫她買演唱會飛、讓她打電話訴苦,這些事,誰也做得到。換句話說,你很易被取代。……從來,女人是先看男人的吸引力,即所謂的感覺,愛上了男人,才看可不可以令他跟自己穩定下來。調轉的順序是很少發生的。……女人擇偶的考慮,『吸引力』先於『穩定性』。戀愛的萌芽期,你不是要做好男人,而是要變得吸引。
Kino〈溝女攻略︰第一次不要帶她看電影〉——這不是廢了我這「影迷」的武功嗎?
        Kino〈短訊溝女攻略〉系列——每次傳短訊都要如此刻意經營,每個應對都要計算清楚,這還是「真我」嗎?可是他也確實說得不錯……我就是不懂這些,結識女生不難,但很快她們就對我失去興趣,短訊也不覆……而且,用了這些招數,也不一定有用……

  有時候我也會這樣……【Yahoo 財經】〈小心「下班沉默症」〉︰「在辦公時間,無論面對客戶、上司或同事,均可應對如流,侃侃而談;然而,離開辦公室後,身心疲憊得一張嘴也懶得動,即使與家人親友聚會亦一語不發。若你有這樣的狀況,並持續了一段時間,便可能患上『下班沉默症』。」(2014-03-25)
        Gilver︰〈基礎科學為什麼重要?〉︰「科學資助的決策正面臨著政治化的風險,減少對基礎科學的資助常被當作是避免政府浪費支出的正當方式。確實,批評者們已經列出數個獲得政府資助的浪費案例,近年的例子則有像是鴨的陰莖、測試蝦可以跑多久、機器人松鼠和螺的性事。這些遭受批評的研究計畫通常是研究生物不尋常的型態或者行為,對社會卻沒有明顯的應用價值。……這種觀點的問題在於,它預設人類的創新是在符合邏輯的程序下,從規畫好的研究中誕生,但歷史告訴我們的卻不是這樣。創新經常從未必相關的事物誕生。……像是以螳螂蝦(mantis shrimp)附肢結構性質為原型的人體護甲、奠基於昆蟲結構色發展的隱形科技,以及模擬動物移動的小型機器人。Geckskin是種可重複使用、不含塗膠的膠布,貼在光滑表面上最高載重可達 700 磅,擁有多種用途。而它,正是數十年研究壁虎腳掌解剖構造的成果。壁虎的腳掌底覆蓋著數百萬根的軟毛,能與表面服貼,產生牢固的附著力,使壁虎能夠上下游走。然而,直到最近才有公司開始理解『壁虎膠布』的商業利益。創新總自基礎科學中誕生,但不一定很快,也不容易一眼就看出來。……就連近年來被強調是浪費錢的鴨陰莖研究,現在也認為能夠用來了解一種常見的人類陰莖疾病『尿道下裂』(hypospadias)的發育進程。……從基礎生物研究所獲得的啟發與理解,告訴我們生物問題無所不在。少了追求奇特個體生物學和演化生物學知識必要的維繫資金,經濟體系將必然無法利用大自然難能可貴的能力去創新。
         One more time - Why do we listen to our favourite music over and over again? Because repeated sounds work magic in our brains︰“In fact, repetition is so powerfully linked with musicality that its application can dramatically transform apparently non-musical materials into song.... You'd think that listening to someone speak and listening to someone sing were separate things, distinguished by the objective characteristics of the sound itself.... But the speech-to-song illusion reveals that the exact same sequence of sounds can seem either like speech or like music, depending only on whether it has been repeated. Repetition can actually shift your perceptual circuitry such that the segment of sound is heard as music: not thought about as similar to music, or contemplated in reference to music, but actually experienced as if the words were being sung. This illusion demonstrates what it means to hear something musically. The‘musicalisation’shifts your attention from the meaning of the words to the contour of the passage (the patterns of high and low pitches) and its rhythms (the patterns of short and long durations), and even invites you to hum or tap along with it. In fact, part of what it means to listen to something musically is to participate imaginatively.” written by Elizabeth Hellmuth Margulis

  Doctor: ADHD Does Not Exist︰“In my view, there are two types of people who are diagnosed with ADHD: those who exhibit a normal level of distraction and impulsiveness, and those who have another condition or disorder that requires individual treatment. For my patients who are in the first category, I recommend that they eat right, exercise more often, get eight hours of quality sleep a night, minimize caffeine intake in the afternoon, monitor their cell-phone use while they're working and, most important, do something they're passionate about. Like many children who act out because they are not challenged enough in the classroom, adults whose jobs or class work are not personally fulfilling or who don't engage in a meaningful hobby will understandably become bored, depressed and distracted. In addition, today's rising standards are pressuring children and adults to perform better and longer at school and at work. I too often see patients who hope to excel on four hours of sleep a night with help from stimulants, but this is a dangerous, unhealthy and unsustainable way of living over the long term. For my second group of patients with severe attention issues, I require a full evaluation to find the source of the problem. Usually, once the original condition is found and treated, the ADHD symptoms go away.” written by Dr. Richard Saul









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  1. 看了一半,想講講,我認為Kino頭三篇都說中了。但在他例子中要追的女性,(給我的感覺)似乎是靚女/多人追的。而且,他說的話反過來也合用(即男的也只會看上有吸引力的女人,而不是愛上他的女人。)另外,想笑笑「迴轉壽司」小知識,特意記下這類知識再作為話題我覺得唔係太work。and短訊策略...... 千祈唔好刻意經營,因為對方好易feel到。:P

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    1. 永遠「中庸」「自然」之道是最難拿捏的呢

      說到最後,還是「緣份」兩個字啦…… :(

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